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Monday, March 28, 2011

My Journey to a Retreat

The time is March 2009. I am in a coffee shop with a friend of mine. We are talking about dreams and goals. My friend starts to talk about stuff that I have never heard before (I thought I knew it all lol). I ask her where she gets all of this stuff. She tells me that she gets all this stuff from a three day retreat that she did eight years prior to our meeting. What do you think I asked her? That's right. How can I be part of this?

Long story short, I did the three day retreat and my life has never been the same – and I mean in a great way. In the last two years alone, I moved into a condo in downtown Toronto (a long time dream of mine), I did a project to help kids in Mali (how can I forget this one?), I produced a documentary movie, I started a blog that is now read over five continents, I created a communication company that has allowed me to speak to hundreds of people, I wrote my first book, I traveled all over the US and Canada, I met celebrities and....I got married (another long time dream of mine lol)! Also, I am working on a deal that if it goes through, it would allow me to expand my business all over Canada - so hopefully it goes through. And finally, I am talking with a distribution company about helping them expand their business into East Africa. Pretty cool I think (don't you think?).

All of this because I learned during the retreat that I can create the life I want.

A few weeks ago I thought to myself “How about I do the retreat again? After two years, I probably would get a different perspective and maybe even create a new chapter of my life”.

This last week-end was the one. No phone, no TV, no Internet, no food (no way! Just kidding) for three days. The only difficult part was the “no phone” commitment (my only link to my special one in Kigali). She has been amazing. She allowed me to go even though she knew it would be hard for her (did I hit the jackpot or what?)

After these three days, I have this story to tell you.

A few years back, a young boy was about to finish grade school and he thought: if I get a chance to go to THAT high school I would be happy. He went on and attended the school he wanted and he was happy for a while. Then he thought: if I can make the school Basketball team, I would be happy. He ended up making the team but he was unhappy as he was on the bench most of the time.

In the final year of high school, he thought: if I can make it to University I would be so happy. Guess what! He made it and was happy for a while. Then he thought: if I can make the University Basketball team, I would be so happy. It took him three years to make it but he was on the bench most of the time, so he was not very happy.

As he was about to finish University he thought: if I can be an English teacher I would practice my English better and I would be so happy. He became a teacher and was so happy. Then he thought: teaching is good, but I would like also to work in a radio station. If I could get a job in a radio station I would be so happy because radio is my passion.

Guess what! Yes. He got the job and he was also a Basketball coach as well. Then he thought: if I could win a few championships as a coach, I would be so happy. He did in fact win over fifteen trophies in less than seven years as a coach. Then he thought: I have no more challenges now. I am not happy anymore. Maybe I can go abroad. If only I can go to Canada, this time my life would be complete. I would be so happy.

Funny enough, in 2002, he landed in Toronto. Then he thought: if I could get a job in a radio station, man, I would be so happy. I would never ask for anything again. My life would be complete.

Do you get the picture?

Or by the way do you recognize this guy?

Can anybody relate? We think that when we get THAT thing we have been working so hard for, we would be happy. Guess what! Happiness comes from the inside. How about being happy NOW in this moment regardless of what we have or don't have. And if you have absolutely nothing to be happy about, then be happy to be alive. This is what I came to realize after three days of being away from everything.

I am not where I want to be, but I am now happy more than ever because I know that I am exactly where I am supposed to be right now at this moment. It is a great feeling. And it was great to be back on the phone again after three days of silence. My apologies to the 23 people who left me messages when I was away. Kigali had to come first. I will return your call in five days after I am done with my conversation with “The chosen one” as my friend Tony calls her.

Moral of the story? Do you want to be happy? Keep chasing your dream and you will spend three days away from your significant other.

Always a pleasure

The Journeyman
Twitter: @journeymanstory

Monday, March 21, 2011

My Journey to Moments of Gratitude

Where do I start? Really! This is one of those weeks where I don't even know where to begin writing since so much has happened in a short space of time. But I will try.

A few weeks ago I attended a communication course that lasted two and half days. Oh boy did I need it. It was an opportunity to take a serious look at myself and identify what works and what doesn't work in my communication with others. I went there with an open mind (I heard that the mind is like a parachute; it works best when it is open lol) and I was ready to do what ever it took to learn what I needed to learn.

What did I discover about myself? Do you want to hear it? Well first of all I am a business man so I don't give my stuff out for free.....however............because it is you I will tell you. So do you want the long or the short version of the story? Actually, let's go with the short version and you can let me know what you think.

It is the year 2001 and I am in Burundi my home country. I have a big goal that I want to accomplish and I share it with a very close friend of mine. He laughs at me and says that I am such a dreamer. I don't say anything, but deep inside, I am burning to prove him wrong. The days pass and he keeps on teasing me, so I decide that I will NEVER share my goals with anyone ever again.

Guess what! Ten years later, I am still the same! I have that wall between me and others in regards to sharing my goals. I prefer to talk about it when it is complete. Do you know what? With close friends, my method doesn't seem to work. They feel like I don't trust them (and I can't blame them, I would feel the same). However, I was not doing this on purpose (you don't know, what you don't know until someone shows you.)

Do you still have a minute? I can share another thing or two with you.

I discovered that my whole life has been about giving (which is not bad at all), but I have a hard time receiving or asking for help (do you know anyone like that?). It takes all the courage and vulnerability in the world for me to ask for help. I want to do it myself. But, YOU ask me for my help? I will move mountains to help you get what you want (sometimes even forgetting my own goals).

So I decided to change. I decided to allow myself to be vulnerable and ask for help and feel OK about it. Oh man! It was like there was someone out there saying “why did you wait this long?” Since I allowed myself to do this, things have been crazy.

Let me share this with you.

Last week, I asked two friends to donate money for my trip to Africa coming up in a few months (that by itself is a huge breakthrough for me: asking for money.). Anyways, the two friends saw me two days later, and one of them said: “Oh Patrick, I have your money. Here it is”. The second one went: “Oh yes, me too. Here is the money that I promised you”. Not far from us, another friend was watching all of this, and she came to me and said: “I don't know why these people are giving you money, but it must be for something good. Here is mine too. You can have it. Now, can you please explain to me: Why are all these people giving you money?”


All I had to do was....ask!!!!

A few days later, people came to me with GREAT business opportunities which made me feel as if I was a magnate!

Do I have everything in place for my trip to Africa? Not yet. But I know I can ask for help. Funny enough, I am receiving help and people are feeling good about it (I guess I have been sowing enough seeds in the ground).

I am so grateful to everyone. It is beyond imagination.

Oh, I forgot to tell you another thing. I was approached by a newspaper last week, and they want to write a profile about me! (are you serious!!!). I met the journalist, we did our interview and she sent me her first draft of the article. When I read it, I was like “are you kidding me? Is this me, really?”.
Now, everywhere I go, I take my pen with me. Hey, you never know someone may need my autograph lol.

What a week!!!

Moral of the story? Do you want to take a trip to Africa? Just ask for help and you will find yourself signing autographs.
Always a pleasure

The Journeyman
Twitter: @journeymanstory

Sunday, March 13, 2011

My Journey to a Meeting with a World Changer

It is a Friday evening, I am with my friends “Choulec” and Che who are teasing me on my blog, and I promise them that I won’t talk about it (and here I am, breaking my promise lol). We are all heading to an event of which I am part. The event is about Black romance in the 21st century and I am one of the four speakers on the panel.

The event is a great success and people love it. I would like to think that I in some way helped with this success. I go home satisfied with my part in the event.

Two days pass and I receive a friend request on Facebook from a lady named Christina. I gladly respond to the request (I usually do. Now that you know, you can send me yours too).

 After accepting her friend request Christina sends me an e-mail telling me that she was at the event I was part of and that she would be glad to have me at her book launch in Buffalo next month. I say yes and we agree to speak on the phone.
After a few attempts back and forth, we finally speak on Monday. WOW!!!!

 The conversation lasted for half an hour, and all I was thinking of during this time was:

“We are in the sixties. A lady takes the bus as usual, but this time she decides to sit in the front seat knowing that she is not “allowed” to because of the colour of her skin. She is asked to move and she says NO. The rest is history”

That is the story of Rosa Parks. It takes someone with faith, conviction and determination to change the course of history. Christina is of that caliber. She is a world changer. Her stand for her community and her desire to make this world a better place to live, her story of surviving hardship with an unwavering faith and a strong desire to succeed is the basis of her upcoming book “Restoration: In the Words of a True Lyricist”. Her author's name is Chris C. Black.

Do you know what is the cool part? She is only 23 years old (just 2 years younger than I. lol).

And do you know what is the other cool part? I am the guest speaker at her event. According to her, I won’t be the only celebrity there. I was thinking: “Am I finally going to meet Denzel Washington?”

Watch out world; Chris is coming.

 Moral of the story?

Do you want to write a really cool book? Just send me your friend request on Facebook and you will meet celebrities.

Always a pleasure

The Journeyman
Twitter: @journeymanstory

Sunday, March 6, 2011

My Journey to my second meeting with Bob Proctor

He is the master of the Law of Attraction and that is why he is attracting me in his life (or is it the opposite?). For the second time in two weeks, I had the opportunity to be with Bob Proctor. When he saw me again he jokingly said “This is the second time I have seen you Patrick. Will you finally get it?”

Not only did I meet Bob Proctor, I also met his wife. She is also a successful business woman.

This time I was with Paul my business partner. Of course I introduced Paul to my good friend Bob lol. Man, this guy is a genius. He told us a story about how his housemaid once asked him to buy a lottery ticket. Bob just said to her: “I would rather earn the money”. He went on to say that, in fact, he earned one million dollars just sitting in his kitchen meditating on great ideas when the one million dollar idea came to him. I said to myself "Well, I am going to sit in my kitchen everyday" lol.

Two weeks ago when I met him, I was so much in admiration of him that his message was not my main focus. This time, I felt a deep conviction that I can do what he did and what he continues to do everyday, even when he is asleep. In fact, what he did is so simple that it seems too good to be true. He just followed what Napoleon Hill said in his book “Think and Grow Rich” (Guess what I am reading now? Lol).

After his presentation, I approached him while he was chatting with a group of ladies. I was there just to listen to the wisdom that was coming from his mouth. Let me paraphrase what he said: “There is a law of polarity. This law says that everything has its opposite. So, if you feel you are not successful, there must be an opposite side to that. Take a piece of paper and write down everything that you do not like in your life. Then, on another piece of paper, write the opposite of what you have just written on the first piece of paper. Once you have done that, focus on the positive side by being grateful that it is coming into your life. Read the paper over and over again until you believe it.”

After this conversation he turned to me and started asking me a few questions. He asked me how in the world am I so good looking. Just kidding!!

Actually, he asked me what I do and I told him. I also told him that I wrote a blog about him and that I am about to publish my first book. I mentioned to him that I attended the same professional public speaking training as he did. He looked into my eyes and just said: “Patrick, you are on the right track .” YES SIR! That was exactly what I needed to hear.

I am about to speak to one of his business partners. Who knows what will come up?

Moral of the story? Do you want to meet Bob Proctor twice in two weeks? Me too.

Always a pleasure

The Journeyman
Twitter: @journeymanstory