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Monday, September 24, 2012

My Journey to A Great Lesson

It has been quite an eventful week. Actually it started last week when a friend of mine invited us to visit him and his family. That was the first time we actually went out, the three of us, other than to the doctors' appointment. It was a blast. Of course there was great food involved.

 I have started working with a coach. Her name is Charlie. It has been a few weeks now that I am working with her, and I have started seeing the results. The first result is actually is something intangible, but yet essential. She helped me define exactly what I want and in details. It was challenging at times, because there are things that I hadn't thought about yet, but I am glad I did.

 Two days ago, I received a call from a longtime friend of mine. Actually, he is one of my best friends. He lives in England. We do not talk as often as we used to (he is a father of 3 kids, and I have one...), but when we get a chance to talk, we can talk for hours just to catch up. As I was sharing with him what I am discovering about being a new dad, he reminded me about stuff that he told me long time ago about having a family. It did not make a lot of sense at first, but now that I can totally relate to it, it does really make sense back then. But it does now. I guess timing is everything. He taught me a lot of stuff, and I am so thankful. He has 3 kids, and has a great family. I think I can learn a thing or two about being a parent.

 The lesson I learned is that if I want to learn something valuable, I'd better learn it from someone who has done it and succeeded. I can learn from my own experience but it would take a long time, I would rather learn from somebody else experience. My challenge to you is to find a mentor, someone who is where you want to go, someone who has been tested, someone who can show results. I am on a quest of mentors, hopefully I will be able to find great ones.

 Moral of the story? Do you want to find a great coach? Just invite me to dinner and I will give you mine.

Always a pleasure
 Patrick The Journeyman

Monday, September 17, 2012

My Journey to Our Daughter's Three Month Birthday

Time really runs so fast.It's been three months that our baby was born. It seems like it was yesterday.

Before that, the only time I held a baby in my arms for more than five minutes was 31 years ago when my younger brother was born (this is to show how ready I was to be a father...). The first week after our daughter was born, I looked like a zombie. After six sleepless nights, I knew something had to change. We needed to find a system that could work for both my wife and I.

I can tell you one thing. My wife is a trooper. Being a newcomer in Canada is quite a big challenge by itself (trust me.I worked with newcomers to Canada for over 7 years. I know a little thing or two about what they face). Add to that carrying a baby and all the fun stuff of being a wife and living for the first time in her life away from her (wonderful) family. It's not an easy thing to do. You can also add teaching her husband how to cook stuff other than pasta. She was exhausted too.

Now, three months later, I look like a professional who's been working with kids for years. I can do everything in a heart bit. My food taste like real food, I can wash the baby, change her diapers,and have fun along the way. Just this morning, I was at the library and my first instinct was to go to the children section. What a lifestyle change! (do they give Nobel Prizes for that? I think I deserve one). I feel comfortable now.

Looking back, I can only laugh how I was struggling with all the changes. It was really tough. Now, whenever I am about to lose my nerves when the baby can't stop crying, I look at her, and she has her disarming smile (she changes her moods so quickly like Canadian weather lol) and I can't help but smiling too. It's a pure joy.

Just the other day, I was sharing with my wife how I heard from Bob Proctor that there is a Law of Rhythm. Life has phases. We can be up, and the next thing you know, you're down. The key is to recognize where you are and know that there will be another phase coming, and not fight what is. Three months ago, it was tough to be a new dad, now it is pure joy and the struggle has been replaced by smiles. I love it.

So, if you are in a phase of struggle, just say to yourself that this too shall pass, another phase of your life is coming. It's a Law. We cannot remain at the same place forever. That is good news, I think.

Moral of the story?

Do you want to learn new things? Just get a new baby and you will learn how to cook

Always a pleasure

Patrick
The Journeyman.

Tuesday, September 11, 2012

My Journey To Toronto International Film Festival

This is a premiere for me. I am posting my blog straight to the blog website without editing it. And I know that you were waiting for this one yesterday. My bad. I don't know if in some parts of the world it is still Monday (for me to justify that I am not late posting this blog).

I am in fact writing from a computer provided for the Industry delegates at the Toronto International Film Festival. Yes I am one of them as an Assistant Producer of a movie that is about to be shot in South Africa. How I got in here is another story.

Being part of the festival is something special. I just met great movie producers, and as they were mentioning the projects they have been working on in the past, I am just amazed to even being part of the discussion. I am talking about Oscar winning movies. It's crazy. My only hope was to meet Will Smith, but I guess that will have to be for another day lol

Funny enough, as I was doing my homework yesterday given to me by Charlie my new coach, she asked me about my childhood dreams. I had a few dreams as I was growing up. At six years old, my dream was, by the year 2000, to be a teacher. As a young teenager, my dream was to become a TV and movie producer. Later on I dreamt about working in a radio station.

Let's check. In the year 2000, I was an English teacher at my former high school and working as a radio broadcaster in the evenings and weekends. My first job in Toronto was Project Manager of the first French speaking radio station in Toronto. And now, I am part of the Toronto Film Festival meeting with movie producers!!!! Maybe the dream is coming true, what do you think? I am in shock!

I have only 15 minutes on this computer, so I just wanted to check in as I am heading to the next event.

Keep dreaming, there is a Guy Upstairs making sure that those dreams will come to pass. And, as it has been my experience, He works in mysterious ways. I can't believe I am part of this Festival!!!

Moral of the story?

Do you want your dreams to come true? Just be in a Festival and you will have only 15 minutes to work on their computers

Always a pleasure

Patrick

The Journeyman

Monday, September 3, 2012

My Journey to a busy long week-end

Back to back this week-end I went to bed almost at dawn. Thankfully it was a long week-end, I was able to catch up with my sleep today. A friend of mine had asked me to host his wedding reception as the Master of Ceremonies and I said yes. It was this week-end and we all had fun. At the wedding I met people that I haven't seen in over ten years. It was so great.

Last Friday, my friend Emmanuel Lopez a.k.a Motivatorman came to visit me at my place. It was for work, but he also wanted to see our daughter (now she is what people want to see...Am I jealous of her? Lol). Then we decided to have a walk at the park. We sat there for almost an hour talking about different subjects, including our favorite one: Movies. It's funny how two people can watch the same movie and each gets a complete different perspective.

The movie that came into the discussion was Kevin Costner's “Field of Dreams”. It is a fantastic movie about an Iowa corn farmer (Costner), hearing voices, interprets them as a command to build a baseball diamond in his fields. The voices were saying “If you build it, he will come”. Against common wisdom, he decided to destroy a big part of his farm, sacrificing his corn, to build a baseball field. People thought he was crazy, his wife Annie, was skeptical, but she allowed him to plow under his corn to build the field.

For a while nothing happened, and He soon faced financial ruin (by this time, I know that you want to hear the full story. Don't you?).

It is a must see movie. That is all I can say.

For me, the movie is a great metaphor. Most of the times we hear “voices” in our heart to follow our dreams, but we decide not to listen to them. They seem to be illogical, they are against common sense, and above all, they are way outside of our comfort zone. What if I fail? What would other people say? Those are common questions that we ask ourselves.

Some others decide to do something about it, but find themselves facing insurmountable challenges, and decide to give up. Very few really move forward in spite of the obstacles, and those are the ones who become our heroes.

What was interesting about the movie was the fact that Costner was obeying the voices without understanding why he was doing what they were asking. He took them by faith and faced the unknown. It was challenging at times when he faced temporary defeat, but he was rewarded big time at the end (of course, I won't tell you how...lol).

He built the baseball diamond, and for a very long time nothing happened. He thought it would happen immediately but he was wrong.

That is the mistake most of us make. I thought my dreams were going to happen overnight. I have been waiting for ten years now. Yes, there have been successes here and there, but the big one has taken a very long time man! I didn't know I had to fight this hard. I didn't know I had to face mountains, I didn't know I would cry more than once. I didn't know I would have my back against the wall so many times. The list goes on and on, but still, there is no regret at all. Do you know why? Because those dark moments are those who make the victory so sweet.


J. K. Rowling said once that failure is very important, we do not speak about it often, and success is the ability to resist failure or to use failure to achieve success. Most people never try things for fear of failing. Rock bottom is a place where you have nothing to lose, therefore, venture about anything to achieve success. I couldn't agree more

Moral of the story? Do you want to watch a great movie? Come to visit me and you will be inspired.


Always a pleasure

Patrick
The Journeyman