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Tuesday, May 27, 2014

My Journey with Heather


y Journey with Heather
 
I recently spent the last few days in Ottawa with some amazing leaders. I was there for a conference, and it was an opportunity to meet some of my old friends that I haven’t seen for a while. It was also a well needed change of scenery which came at the right time for me.
 
She was one of my mentors about twelve years ago when I came to Canada. Heather and the other mentors I had took the young boy I was and turned him into a man. I admired Heather so much for her tough skin and her “whatever it takes” attitude. She was an inspiration to me.
 
In 2009, we lost track of each other and we did not keep in touch.
 
Years had past without knowing Heather’s whereabouts. So it was a pleasant surprise when earlier this year I received an e-mail from her asking me if we could meet up. I immediately agreed. I was really looking forward to meeting her after so many years without seeing each other. We had a lot of things to catch up on.
 
Our first meeting was a delight. We laughed so much while talking about our years in business together and our numerous trips to the US.
 
She told me about her passion to help young women who went through numerous abuses. She had been mentoring a number of them, and now she wanted to do it in a more formal way. She asked me if I would help her. How could I refuse such an offer? A few months later,” Mirror Mirror Women Mentoring Program” was born.
 
“Mirror Mirror Women Mentorship Program” is a Not-For-Profit organization based in Toronto, Ontario, Canada. The idea of creating the organization was born out of the need to empower women particularly those who have been victims of sexual, physical, cultural and emotional abuse, and who face a number of challenges with their self-esteem and self-condemnation.

I haven’t seen anybody as determined as Heather. She is out there meeting people, working tirelessly to make her dream come true. It is a true honour to work with her.

This is my shout out to all of you who would like to make a difference in young women lives; Heather needs your help.  Heather is the real deal. Reach out to her, partner with her and you will never regret it.
Moral of the story? Do you want to make a difference with Heather, just contact her and you will laugh a lot while making an impact.
 
Always a pleasure
 
Patrick
The Journeyman.
 
 
    

Tuesday, May 20, 2014

The Journey of an Elephant

It’s been quite an interesting week in many ways. More downs than ups, but everything is a matter of perspective. Don’t worry, the sequel is over. This is not another new perspective story.

My body is still hurting a bit from the physical effort of last Saturday's Basketball game. I guess the age is catching up. We won with a huge margin; hopefully the San Antonio Spurs will do the same.

Hey Jim, yes the Journeyman is back. Thanks for your enthusiasm. I realize that after my little vacation you are way out front in the page views competition; that being said I will catch up to you very soon. So watch out!

I heard a story of a small ant which was on the  back of a big elephant. As the elephant was riding along, it came across a small bridge. The ant was still on his back. Unfortunately, the bridge was not strong enough to hold the weight of the elephant, so it collapsed. The good news is that the bridge was not high enough so the elephant was not hurt with the collapse.

The ant which managed to remain on the back of the elephant after the bridge collapsed shouted: did you see what the elephant and I did? We just destroyed a bridge!

Do you think the ant weight had anything to do with the bridge being destroyed? The elephant did all the work, yet the ant wanted to take credit for the “work done”.

This story was a strong lesson in humility for me. How long have I tried to take credit for a result when I knew I had little to do with the result? Yet, I would proclaim loud and clear that I was the man!!

Life has a way of bringing us to a place where we have no choice but to gain a new or proper perspective.  Here we go again with perspective. Humility is something I learned the hard way. I was lucky enough to learn the reason why “bad” things were happening to me. Here is the reason why.

And you shall [earnestly] remember all the way which the Lord your God led you these forty years in the wilderness, to humble you and to prove you, to know what was in your [mind and] heart, whether you would keep His commandments or not.
And He humbled you and allowed you to hunger and fed you with manna, which you did not know nor did your fathers know, that He might make you recognize and personally know that man does not live by bread only, but man lives by every word that proceeds out of the mouth of the Lord.
Your clothing did not become old upon you nor did your feet swell these forty years.
Know also in your [minds and] hearts that, as a man disciplines and instructs his son, so the Lord your God disciplines and instructs you.
So you shall keep the commandments of the Lord your God, to walk in His ways and [reverently] fear Him.A)" style="">(A)
 
I was humbled indeed
 
Moral of the story?
Do you want to ride on a back of an elephant? Just be humble and you will cross a bridge.
 
Always a pleasure
 
Patrick
The Journeyman

Thursday, May 15, 2014

My Journey to A New Perspective: Part 3

Hollywood has its own sequels, and I am creating mine called "My Journey to A New Perspective". Don't you think that I got the timing right as the new Spiderman is out at the same time as my sequel? I hope my new sequel will have the same success as Spiderman at the box office.
 
I am writing this blog on my way to a wedding where I am Master of Ceremonies. I hope I am finish by the time I get there; especially now that I am trying to get use to my new phone. Yes, I have a new phone. The phone company told me that they are no longer using old models like my phone.  I had to get a new one. The good news is that the new phone comes with two months of free service. I like good deals.
 
I don't know if you had the chance to hear it but I so enjoyed the speech Kevin Durant, of the Oklahoma City Thunder, gave when he well deservedly received the award for Most Valuable Player of the Basketball season. It was a very emotional speech that made many people cry. I have to admit that I was one of them. Click HERE to view the speech.
 
I never knew about the tough times his family went through as he was growing up, raised by a single mother. I have seen his mother numerous times cheering for him at the games, but I didn't realize the enormous part she played in his life. No wonder KD said in his speech that she was the real MVP. When he tearfully said those words, no one in the room was sitting. She received a huge standing ovation from everybody.

Do you know what's so interestingly funny about all of this? It was just on the eve of the speech, that OKC got his butt kicked by the LA Clippers in game one. The next day, inspired by their best player’s speech, Oklahoma came back stronger than ever. Now they are leading in the series.
 
Here is another thing I learned: our tough times will be used to inspire others. I am looking forward to the day I  get to be on the other side. Maybe my troubles will inspire more than one.
 
Moral of the story? Do you want to be part of a Hollywood sequel? Just keep reading my blog and I will meet you at the box office.
 
Always a pleasure
 
Patrick
The Journeyman.
 
 

Tuesday, May 6, 2014

My Journey to A New Perspective: Part 2

Didn’t I tell you that I would be back? Well here I am; I have kept my word.

Now I am going to share something with you on the topic of keeping my word.....actually, I will return to that so stay tune.

First of all, I am still recovering from the heart breaking defeat of the Toronto Raptors in Game 7 of the NBA Playoffs. What a series! I have been watching the NBA for many years (of course I won’t tell you how many years, because you will get a hint on my age), and every Playoff series is always better than the previous one. The Raptors put the City on the map with their performance, but the fans were off the charts with their show of support. Cold, rain, traffic, nothing could stop them from coming to celebrate their team in the streets of Toronto. It was simply unbelievable. Now my eyes are on the San Antonio Spurs, my favourite team to win it all.

Wait and see.

Now let's return to the topic of keeping my word.

A few years ago, I completed an intensive training program at one of the top personal development training companies in the word. What I learned was extremely valuable even though sometimes I felt like I was training to be in the Marines. It was intense.

One of the things they would say was that “without integrity nothing works”. They defined integrity as “honouring your word”. In other words, if you say you are going to do something then you must do it. When you miss your mark (which happens to all of us), you have to restore your integrity and put a plan in place so that it doesn't happen again.

I had the opportunity to be part of the coaching team, and instead of it becoming easier it became even more challenging.

I remember being late one day for our 6 o’clock coaches meeting. It was so embarrassing. The funny thing is that I was in the building way before 6 o’clock, but someone asked for my help to fix something, and I agreed to help; unfortunately, I forgot to check the time on my watch. Needless to say, I ended up being 30 seconds late for the meeting. Now to most people being 30 seconds late is no big deal, in fact, many might say that I was still on time. Well, the reality is that as far as my coaching group was concerned I was late and being late was a big deal! Remember: I gave my word that I would be there at 6 o’clock sharp.
You should have seen my face, in front of a dozen of coaches, with all of them looking at me without saying anything. I knew exactly what I had to do at that moment: I had to restore my integrity in front of everybody.

Looking back, I can honestly tell you that I learned a great lesson from this experience. Would you like to know why? When I reflect on my past, most of the times to probably all of the times when I got myself into trouble it was because I did not honour my word.  I did not do what I said I would do. Even now, I still have  to restore my integrity with a number of people. Let me tell you that it is easier said than done, but I pray every day to have the strength to deal with it. Keeping my word and restoring my integrity when I fall short of keeping my word are a couple of the things I was reminded of during my hibernation.

Stay tune for more to come.


Moral of the story? Do you want to avoid being late for 30 seconds? Keep reading my blog and you will restore your integrity.