It's crazy how time flies so quickly. I can't believe it has been almost a year since I was in Ottawa. And now I am back there again. Same hotel, same people, same food. The only thing that changed is me (I think I am better looking now lol)
Because I arrived on the same day as our meeting I did not get a chance to meet as many people as I did last year. But I made sure to visit my friend Abdou and his wife (was it for the Raptors game we watched together, or was it for the amazing food?). It was also great to see my old friend “Black” Elvis. We had a nice chat.
I was in Ottawa for just a few days, but I really needed it. On our first day I went to bed at 7pm. I can't even remember the last time I went to bed before midnight. For the first time in months, I spent my evenings doing nothing (of course if we don't include eating, my favourite hobby). As I am writing this blog, I am on the train on my way back home. I made sure to bring my audios to keep me company during the four hour trip.
Talking about audios, a few weeks ago I bought an audio book by the great Mike Dooley (from the movie “The Secret”). This guy is a genius. He knows how to talk about complicated stuff in a simple way. In three days, I listen to the entire book. In one chapter, he said (I am paraphrasing here) that if we feel uncomfortable, it is a sign that we need to change the way we have been doing things. Oh boy I needed to hear that. But my question was “what do I need to change?” I was clueless.
After a few days, I finally got it. Do you know how it came to me? I just remembered “Peaceful Warrior” one of my favourite movies. I won't tell you the story as I want you to watch the movie. There is a part in the movie when Dan's mentor tells him that he was going to teach him how to get everything he needed from the inside. According to Dan's mentor, all the solutions to our problems can be found on the inside of us. All we have to do is...listen. What a concept!
I decided to give it a try. Why not? I had nothing to loose. This year, I have goals that are way over my comfort zone. If I want to reach them, I will have to change the way I do things otherwise I will get the same results. I heard someone say that we cannot solve any problem with the same mind that got us into them. Something has to change.
I have found my new way. It is so cool. It is still too early to tell you now (as I want you to keep reading my blogs). What I will tell you is that I can now see the light at the end of the tunnel. I am so excited. I will keep you posted as the results will keep coming (they have already started). I feel like I have replaced Ryan Seacrest on American Idol. You will get the results after the break .......
Moral the story? Do you want to find a new way to reach your goals? Just go to Ottawa and you will eat amazing African food
Monday, February 21, 2011
He is a hero of mine, I have studied his material for years, I had met him once and at that time he even signed one of the books he gave to me. But, spending three hours in an intimate setting, hearing him calling my name, him talking to me from a few feet away was just a dream come true.
Bob Proctor is simply a genius. He has been studying the laws of success for over fifty years, but he has a simple way of explaining things that I found myself saying “wow” all the time. I have listened to his audios, read his book and saw hundreds of his videos. It has come to the point where I can finish his sentences before he finishes them. But seeing him live telling his story is another thing.
Call me crazy, but I just believe that I will end up working with him. I don't know how or when this is going to happen, but I know I will. It is with the same belief that I know I will one day meet Michael Jordan and Nelson Mandela (being with Pathe'O few weeks ago made me feel I am not that far from it happening).
How did this happen? How did I end up meeting Bob Proctor? I just knew his phone number lol
Seriously. Last December when I returned from Africa, I knew my life would never be the same. I was married (just the thought of it makes me say “are you kidding me!!?”). I came back with a laser focus to make my life better. I knew I had to change something (less travelling?). I just wanted to give my wife the lifestyle that she deserves, but it required me to do things I had never done before.
So, I decided to look for opportunities to improve what I was doing and also to add new opportunities that were not there before. I started looking around and the first thought that came to me was my friend Dom. I remembered him telling me that he was part of something special. He did not tell me what, but I finally went to him and said: show me what you're doing. He did, and he also told me that Bob Proctor would be speaking in February for his organization, if I buy the ticket I would get a chance to meet him. I bought the VIP ticket of course and from that moment I started counting down the days.
I am glad I made that decision in December. Just a few days ago, I was invited to be part of a group of panelists to talk about Black romance in the 21st Century (I think I am qualified to do that lol). What a group of people! I found myself with authors (one has published 40 books !!!!!), movie producers, journalists, poets, movers and shakers in our community. Just a little blog that I started a few months ago is now opening doors for me in new arenas that I never thought I would be in. Now I am chatting with Bob Proctor. Are you serious!!!??
At the end of the meeting, I went over to Bob Proctor for his autograph. I had in my hand a book that he recommended in one of his programmes. It is “The Science of Getting Rich” by Wallace D. Wattles (call me crazy, but any book that Bob recommends , I read). Anyway, I asked him to sign me an autograph on the first page of that book, and he looked at me and said: “Read the first page of chapter seven of this book. It talks about gratitude. Whenever you feel stuck, just thank God for the life that He gave you and the problems you have will just disappear .”
Mind you, I have read the book ten times before. But when Bob told me to read chapter seven, what do you think I did? You're right. I have been reading that chapter over and over again. Wow! It is like I had never read that book before! It is simply humbling. This little boy from Ngagara and Mutanga Sud is now Bob Proctor's friend (that is the new title that I just gave to myself). It's just crazy.
Moral of the story? Do you want to meet Bob Proctor? Just get married and you will be talking about romance in the 21st Century
Monday, February 14, 2011
It is a Saturday night, I am heading to a fashion show in Toronto to promote my work. As I am about to finish getting my stuff ready, a guy comes with flyers promoting his own event happening three weeks from then. I know the guy, but he doesn't know me. I even know that he is the guest performer for our Black History Month event that we are organizing.
As he passes me by, I just say hi (that is my marketing strategy). He says hello back and I tell him that I have a radio show that can promote his event (now I become interesting!). We exchange our numbers and we agree to meet. Three days later, he is the guest of my show. As I am closing the interview, I inform him that I will be the Master of Ceremonies at the Black History Month event scheduled for the end of the month (now that you know, you have no excuse for you not to be there and to get my autograph). He tells me that he is looking for a Master of Ceremonies at his up coming event, an African fashion show whose main attraction will be the one and only Pathe'O. I said yes bien entendu, as we say in French.
I did not want to look stupid and say I did not know who Pathe'O was (that was the first time I heard about him), so I went on his website. Oh boy! This guy had designed clothes for a dozen of head of states, multiple African superstars and he is the official designer for Nelson Mandela. I was shocked twice. First, how come I did not know this guy and second, how come this guy did not know me lol. (I am the only superstar not wearing his stuff!!).
Long story short, I ended up spending two hours with him on Friday in a meeting: a one on one conversation with him on Saturday, and to top it all off, a two hour head to head meeting with him on Sunday during which he gave me an exclusive interview for my upcoming radio show! What a man of wisdom! He is knowledgeable, he is funny and he is so humble (he didn't even want to come on stage on Saturday when I invited him to speak to the audience who came to admire his out of this world fashion creations).
Of course I asked him tons of questions including how he met Nelson Mandela. He shared with me many funny stories that I won't mention here, unless you pay me a lot of money. During my interview, I asked him if he had any advice he could give to young dreamers out there who would like to have his kind of success. He just said: “Be willing to work hard and for as long as it takes”. He told me that it took him fifteen years of hard work before he could open his first store. Now his stores are all over Africa, Europe and North America. I felt privileged to be in the presence of greatness.
Check this out:
1990: Mandela is released from prison
The great African singer Myriam Makeba decides to offer Nelson Mandela a special gift: 5 shirts designed by Pathe'O
Mandela loves the shirts and sends a hand written letter to Pathe'O
1998: Pathe'O meets Mandela for the first time
Mandela visits France for the first time and is asked where he gets his shirts; he mentions Pathe'O
After Mandela mentioned Pathe'O's name, his phone explodes with calls from all over the world and his life will never be the same
2011: Pathe'O meets the Journeyman for the first time and the rest is history lol
Why did I mention all these events? Very simple. When we are pursuing our dreams, we will meet the right people at the right time to put us where we are supposed to be. Pathe'O was successful before he met Mandela, but after his meeting with him, his business went to the roof and now he is a legend. I was very successful before I met Pathe'O and then....I am just watching the Grammy Awards...(but who knows)
Moral of the story? Do you want to meet a legend? Just show up at a fashion show and you will love the MC. Hopefully, it will be ME.
Always a pleasure
Monday, February 7, 2011
This is one of the most difficult blogs I have ever written. Do you know why? Because I am sitting on the back sit of a car going almost sixty five miles an hour in the streets of New York. Every time the car hits a bump in the road, I just stop writing. So, bear with me if you find yourself reading it slowly, it's because it took me a long time to write....
Here I am again in New York for the eighth time in the last ten months. Isn't it crazy? Never in my wildest dreams as a young boy had I thought I would travel this much. Let's see. Since July 2005 I have traveled at least once every three months. I have been more than ten times to North Carolina, South Carolina, Kentucky, Ohio, and once to Dallas and to Vegas. You can add to that a trip to Mali, France, Burundi and recently to Rwanda (how can I forget this one?).
This trip was very emotional for many reasons. I made sure I appreciated every bit of it, because I am now turning the page. No more excessive traveling. In fact, this is my last one (don't worry, my name is still Journeyman). Did I say my last one? I was wrong. I will be in Ottawa in two weeks, and that will be the last one.
Why such a sudden decision, you may ask? Only because I want to change my name and be called Family Guy. My recent change in marital status made me realize that I can no longer live the life I was living (now I have good enough reasons to stay home if you know what I mean). That is not the only reason though. Almost all my trips, I have been going to conferences to listen to great speakers, coaches and trainers. I even had one on one conversations with celebrities and world changers (no wonder I am one of them now lol). All of them have made such a huge impact on my life. Even though I have been living on the edge and made sacrifices for this long, I won't regret any moment of it. I really learned from the best.
I am now starting a new chapter of my life. All these years, I have learned a thing or two. I have applied some of them in my life and made things happen when there was no way they could happen. It's time for me to share them with the world. I am going to dedicate my life to be of service doing stuff I love to do (there is no higher purpose). I have started coaching a couple of business owners, and my intention is to continue to do so. My blog is now read all over the world (a shout out to my new friends in New Zealand), I can now produce my radio show from home and I am about to publish my first book. Very soon, I will be leading my own seminars. What else can I ask for? Of course I have my own challenges, but I embrace them as they come, cause what doesn't kill you makes you stronger as my friend Kanye West stated it in one of his songs.
I really believe we can create our own lives and live by design. I have seen enough to believe so. All that it takes is a leap of faith and trust that there is a Guy Upstairs watching us and guiding us whenever we ask. I heard a guy saying that in the vision there is provision. Just go out and live your dream even when you don't know how it is going to happen. There is somebody who knows and He will make sure that you get it if you really want it so badly and don't give up (have I been listening to Jimmy Cliff or what?)
Moral of the story? Do you want to travel a lot? Just watch Family Guy cartoon and listen to Jimmy Cliff and you will go to New York.
Always a pleasure